Ever since my little dude turned 2,I’ve been bombarded with questions from family,friends and even strangers about when I’m going to have another baby.Its like there is some unwritten rule that once your first child turns 2,you’re supposed to go out and immediately create another one.I guess someone – thankfully- forgot to send me that memo.
I took the picture above at my local supermarket’s baby aisle on Tuesday night.It got me thinking..I wonder if all the people who are pressuring me to have another baby have a clue as to just how much work a baby really is.Simply put,you basically put your own life on hold while you take care of this precious creature.The reward is total unconditional love – and spit on your favorite blouse,an endless stream of stinky diapers,sleepless nights,engorged breasts and the list goes on and on.
I had a tough time with my first pregnancy.The bathroom and I became bestfriends.I’ll spare you the gross details but I’ll say this,while most women are lucky and never have to deal with morning sickness after their first trimester,I wasn’t lucky at all.I spent 9 whole months dealing with morning sickness,afternoon sickness and night sickness.I was sick 24/7 for nine freaking months.Now I bet you’re starting to get a clear picture as to why I’m not exactly rushing into popping out baby number 2.
I may have been sick for the entire pregnancy but I thankfully didn’t need to be put on bed rest and at the end of it all,my hubby and I got this really handsome,healthy and extremely active baby boy that made all that sickness and the swollen ankles worth it.
He’s a big boy now and thinks he’s got the world figured out.Its interesting to watch him learn and discover new stuff every single day.I now know for a fact that that cliche about being given a new lease on life is true…watching your child grow up,watching them try something new for the first time,watching them learn a new word or game,watching them perfecting something as simple as peddling a bike and all that other good stuff is truly like being given a chance to live life all over again.And there in lies the beauty of having a child.
So,to everyone thats asking me when I’m going to pop out another baby,I say..don’t rush me.Don’t put unnecessary pressure on me.I’m still way too busy enjoying my time with the little dude.There is so much ground him and I still have to cover and I want to take my time and enjoy every adventure with him.I want both of us to have plenty of good memories about this time together.I want him to have my undivided attention.And if some day he asks me why he’s an only child..I’ll gladly tell him….
I could have had another baby but why mess with perfection…..